I learned the game from him. Looking on, handball seems very basic and easy: hit the ball against the wall in way the opponent can't return to ball to the wall on the fly. Yet, according to my father, handball is very complex because winning is usually determined by strategy and smarts. When the ball should kept high on the wall and when the ball should be rolled out as a "kill" shot depends on the circumstances of each possession. Sending a player to chase the ball careening off the wall to either side of the court is also a good move to keep one's opponent off balance and out of position.
When I came home one day and told my father that I had found handball courts at one of the neighboring parks, his immediate desire was to visit the courts and see what was in the offering. His face lit up; he had not played in years! Our family had moved away from New York four years previously. I think my father gave up handball since he started his family.
We got into the car and I directed him to the park. He took one look at the courts and reacted, "This in not a handball court!- I have never seen a court with two half side walls!- I am used to 'one wall'." I told my father that it could not be so different than the game that he was used to. There was irony in the term "used to" because my father had not played handball in probably 15 or 20 years; I was 12 and he was 41. Subsequently, we went to a sporting equipment store and bought handballs and gloves and went back to the park and started hitting the ball. He taught me the game.
I went to the park more frequently during summer vacation with friends and we happily played for hours; handball is one of those rigorous, satisfying workouts. On weekends, my father would come and play with us.
I remember on one particular Sunday that my friends could not make it to the park, so only my father and I were playing that day. As we were warming up, two huge athletic looking fellows walked up to watch us warm up. They were obvious collegiate athletes resembling Football players. One spoke to my father asking him if he was interested in playing 'doubles'(two against two). My father looked at me as he said, "sure!" To me he said, "I'll take the left side because that is what I played when your uncle Ben and I paired up "(that must have been more than 20 years ago before my father was married to my mother!). Even though I was left handed and could guard the left side with my strong hand, I was not about to argue with my father who anticipated a great handball game, a workout and some real fun.
And fun we had! My father consistently had an amazing overhand kill shot to the left corner with his right hand and only a few times did the ball go through our strength, through the middle since I felt it unclear who was supposed to hit the ones coming up the middle of the court. Indecision resulted in allowing the ball to go past us both. Fortunately, that did not happen often because our opponents, although unusually strong, were not playing a very smart game. They were hitting the ball incredibly hard but without strategy. As a matter of fact, we had to switch balls because they broke one by hitting it too hard: it split! We won the first game handily and we were immediately challenged for a re-match.
At this point, I could see the sweat poring out on father's forehead. He graciously accepted the challenge. He had not had such a workout in recent memory. We beat them a second time too creating slight irritation that an 'old man and his kid' beat collegiate athletes! My father was resting at this point always dabbing his forehead. A third chance for redemption was understood, so we played a third game and again beat them!
Our opponents could not believe that they were vanquished by a father and his son. My father was incredibly tired, exhausted to the extent that one of the athletes asked if he was ok. He answered in the affirmative and asked the fellows where they learned to play handball. They mentioned that they were Stanford Football players and their coaches recommend playing handball to stay in shape in the off-season. My father was duly impressed with their coaches because he had not heard of handball on the west coast but always knew it was a great game and workout!
Our opponents graciously thanked us for the match and went on their way. We, however, stayed parked at the side of the court resting. Although I was ready for more, my father just sat there with a satisfying smile on his face saying, "great games weren't they?!" I could tell that my father was spent, he had trouble getting up and sweat was still poring out. It was as if the perspiration was making him giddy, marveling at dispatching a pair of collegiate athletes half his age.